Years have gone by since it happened, but I only recently began to recover. While lying in bed this morning, I began pondering the reason why, because it didn’t make sense to me. How could one person cause this much emotional damage by leaving? While in that half asleep state I love some much, a state where I can think so clearly, the answers began to filter into my mind.
They say life is a gamble. I realize now that there is a lot more truth to that old saying than I first imagined. Each one of us has a stack of poker chips, but these chips don’t represent money necessarily. They instead represent our happiness. Every day we place our bets on something, hoping the gamble will payoff big time. What we don’t realize is, we are actually gambling with our own happiness.
For instance, when I committed myself to my studies in college, I knew I was sacrificing some of my present happiness for the hope that I would eventually win something bigger. It was a small bet I made every day, tossing a few of my happiness chips onto the table with every hour of study, waiting for the cards to eventually be played.
It didn’t have to payoff though. There are no guarantees in life. I could have sacrificed all that happiness in vain. Many people waste countless hours and a small fortune, just to find themselves smothered in debt and working at a low paying job. They could also face health issues before raking in all their winnings. Any number of things could actually happen. It really is a gamble. You could lose it all.
She did something to me that few people ever did before her. She made me happy, very happy, immensely happy. I loved that about her. I also knew she could give me unimaginable happiness in the future. I just had to keep her around somehow. Unfortunately, there were so many things I had to give up for her, so many chips I needed to toss onto the table. It scared me how much actually.
It was very hard to do, but I wanted her so badly that I decided I was going to go all in on this bet. I really needed this win. I also couldn’t afford to lose what I had already put on the table. It was foolish, but I felt like I had no other choice but to push all my chips onto the table, every last one of them. It made me horribly sick, just realizing what I was willing to sacrifice for her.
I felt like there was a chance, because I was on a good winning streak at the time. I was just about to graduate with a masters degree, and was even considering a Ph.D. More lucrative job opportunities were also opening up for the first time. I think I was blinded by these successes and temporarily forgot that I could lose everything. Basically, I made the same mistake all gamblers make. I didn’t realize it was time to step away from the table, because my luck was about to run out.
The cards came back, and I watched as the entire table was swept away by the dealer. I had lost everything! There was literally zero happiness left. I had basically done the equivalent of betting the house on a game of poker and lost. Except it wasn’t a house I lost. It was myself. It was my heart, my mind, my soul, everything. I stepped away from that table emotionally broke and bankrupt.
It was the most foolish bet I ever made, but I just couldn’t help it. I couldn’t see myself going on without her. I realize now that I must have actually wanted her more than everything else. I kind of hate myself for that. I should have loved myself more. I should have loved other people more. I sacrificed everything in the hopes of winning that one bet, and just like that, I became the world’s biggest loser.
I think I am slowly recovering from this catastrophic loss, one chip at a time, and hedging all my bets this time. Maybe if I’m lucky enough, I will one day gain back all the happiness I sacrificed on this one person.
Have you ever bet the bank on someone? Have you ever felt emotionally bankrupt? Do you think this is a good analogy? Are you someone who takes big chances? Let me know in the comments, and don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe!
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