You are not one.

I’m going to deviate from my normal coffee praising posts for a moment and venture into a slightly philosophical topic. This is something I wrote a while back but didn’t post it here. I’m going to add it now with some minor editing. It’s kind of a musing of mine, but I wasn’t sure how it would fit into the rest of the content. Perhaps I will find a way to blend it into other subjects I stumble upon.

I spend a lot of time in deep introspection. Maybe it’s just because I am often bored and alone, or maybe I’m just a pondering sort of guy. One idea that has often popped up in my mind is that we do not appear to be a single person. We appear to be a combination of at least two persons or entities. I believe that understanding can shed quite a bit of light on the situation in which we find ourselves.

The first person (entity) is the inner self. The inner self is your observing mind. This is the self that observes the universe around you. I think this self is mostly what philosophy and religion is talking about when they discuss the concept of a soul. It might also figure into quantum physics because it is basically of the observer of the universe. It is the part of you that actually explores existence and reality. I like to think of it as the reality explorer. I my opinion, this is the real you, but it’s hard to put your finger on it. It’s kind of ethereal.

The second person is the outer self. This is the self that everyone around you sees. It’s not really you but is a kind of vehicle for your inner self. You most easily see the world around you by viewing it through the eyes of this physical vehicle. You also have access to all the other forms of feeling this vehicle is capable of sensing. It is often referred to as the physical body, or the animal body. It also has a brain that is geared toward taking care of this body. It is an animal, just like all the other animals you see around you. Your inner self, or reality explorer self, is very tied to this particular animal and through it senses space and time.

This is where it gets tricky. It is very easy to confuse these two selves. You not only feel this other self’s physical sensations but can also feel its emotions. This other self is trying to survive in a physical world, and it will pull you toward goals that improve its quality of life. Very often, it wins. In most cases, both selves are working toward similar goals, but not always. Life problems begin to occur when these two selves have conflicting goals. The communication between you and the animal is very good but not perfect. Sometimes when you tell it to do something it revolts because it has other plans. It also often responds better to training and habits than direct commands.

For instance, you want to lose weight, but your physical self wants to eat a sugar glazed doughnut. Who is going to win this battle? It would be better if you controlled other factors, like not going around places that have doughnuts, as it will have to use a lot of its energy resisting temptation. Another way to lose weight might be getting more exercise. Your physical self has to use energy to accomplish this and may become tired. It may therefore resist this action. A better way might be to train it by creating a daily habit. The animal self is prone to follow patterns and habits, so it may respond favorably to this new lifestyle change.

Most of your life has actually been spent training and interacting with this outer self, and sometimes being frustrated by your inability to perfectly control it. Every person is different. Some people have a very docile and easy-going outer self, while others are in for the ride of their lives.


Do you sense this duality? Have you ever felt like there was a struggle within? Do you sometimes talk to yourself? How do you deal with temptations? How do you train your outer animal? Who’s really in control? Let me know your thoughts on this deep subject, and please like, share, and subscribe!

You killed my future self.

People really don’t live in the present. They are either dwelling on the past that they can never relive, or they are daydreaming about a future version of themselves. It’s funny when you first realize this.

There’s actually a whole meditative system based on focusing your attention on what you are actually doing at this moment. It’s called Mindfulness. It’s kind of odd that we have completely left out the now and need to meditate to find it. It seems like it would be right there in the forefront, but the truth is most people never really live. The now is spent reminiscing about stories from the past or planning a future that may never come.

I have mostly been a future oriented person. I tend to recognize that the past is dead, and I can’t go back there. I do greatly regret some of the people I have had to leave in the past. I wish they had made it to be with me in the now, but it’s clear to me they are not present. What I really want most is to somehow weave them back into my future, hence there is still a future orientation in all of my thinking.

That being said, what I really want is to be happy. Unfortunately, I’m rarely happy in the moment, and I think that’s true for a lot of people. Happiness is either something I remember, or something I am hoping to achieve once I acquire all I need and want. I think this is the real reason why people live in the past or future. They are really not satisfied with what they have right now. This misery causes them to look for happiness in a story that lives only in their head. Mindfulness is therefore kind of related to wanting what you have.

It also makes me realize why it’s so painful to lose someone I love very intensely. The future I envision with them is where I am actually living. If they exit my life, that future self has no potential to ever exist. They have literally killed me in the future. That version of myself has to die and be replaced by a totally different version of me, one that I may not want to experience at all. The heartbreak is really a kind of mourning, caused by me having to lay my precious future self to rest before he ever experienced the intense happiness that I know he would have found.

Today, like every day, I have to face some decision made by me or someone else, and then watch a part of myself die if the wrong decisions are made. If only I could stop caring about the future and realize that the pages ahead of me are blank and will be written by a hand other than my own, because the present me is really the only one that dies today.


Are you living in the past, present, or future? Do you practice mindfulness or another form of meditation? Ever long for someone to be in your future? Tell us all about it! Thanks for being in my present, and don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe!

The details of my life that deserve more attention.

There’s probably a few areas of my life where I don’t pay enough attention to detail. I will list a few below.

  1. Clothing. My life has went through significant changes in the past few years. I would like to pay more attention to my clothing choices and develop my own personal style. Right now, my clothing isn’t bad, but it’s pretty plain, and doesn’t represent where I am now. I’ve actually become a completely different person I believe.
  2. Décor. In the same vein, my home interior doesn’t convey much about me. I went through an extreme minimalism stage. I gained more space after moving downtown, but I’ve done very little with it. Paying more attention to the details of my living quarters might bring more motivation in other areas.
  3. Planning. I need to pay closer attention to what I do outside of work. I do enjoy a fair degree of spontaneity on my day’s off, but I might benefit from better planning of my free time. I would really like to accomplish more in the time I have. I need to set some life goals, and then plan out how to accomplish them.
  4. Dining. I should pay more attention to meal planning. I think having a nice dining experience, both at home and when out at restaurants, is important for well being. I also need to put more thought into exactly what I am eating, and especially the quantities. It’s not that I’m over indulgent. I just need a little more planning.
  5. Wellbeing. I believe I should pay more attention to my mental wellbeing. This might include more reading time, or maybe meditation and quiet contemplation. I should also focus on getting the right amount of sleep. There’s a lot going on in my life sometimes and I need to let my mind detangle.
  6. Culture. There are lots of things to see and do in my city, but I don’t get out and do much, except at night. I need to plan and schedule more things to do, rather than just sleeping in on the weekend. I might even consider going to bed earlier and setting an alarm on the weekends. We’ll see.
  7. Travel. I haven’t had a real vacation in years, scary thought I know. I generally just burn up my leave, a day here and there, but haven’t even done that lately. I think it’s because my job feels pretty demanding. I do need to find time to put something together though. Life is short and I’m missing out on the best parts. I should set a travel or vacation goal, then plan and execute.

Does this list trigger anything you need to focus on? Is there something you would add? Let us know in the comments, and please remember to like, share, and subscribe! Thanks for being here!

One habit that brings me joy.

Sometimes, when you make me focus on something, like a word for instance, ideas and feelings start to surface that I didn’t know I even had. It makes me realize that we know so much more than we think we know, and feel so much more than we express, or even can express. It’s almost like knowledge itself grows fractally within our mind, filling out the empty void, filling in every gap, creating a whole universe if we let it, and all we have to do is meditate on one idea.

Joy is one such word for me. Just contemplating it brings me into its cosmos briefly, and I wish I could live there. Unfortunately, I have only rarely visited the place it creates, seen the stars in its heaven, felt the cool water of its brooks, and smelled its fresh flower-scented air blowing across my face in its breeze, always triggered by this occurrence or that, but never a permanent conjuration. Joy, to me, is beauty in one of its purest invocations, and like beauty, it is gauzy and ephemeral, slipping right through your net when you try to capture it and tie it down, and if I can’t even hold on to it, how could I ever turn it into a habit?

After leaving the trance state… Lol!

To me, joy is something that is occasionally triggered by an event that is largely out of my control. Basically, a habit is something I control, and joy is something that is triggered by something or someone. If something did give me joy, and I started doing it habitually, the joy it brought would eventually either fade, or only happen every now and then.

A habit is also something I don’t really think about. It is something I’ve programmed my body to do for me, so I can think of other things. I’m aware of a practice called mindfulness that seeks to make you conscious of the things you are doing at the moment, but that really doesn’t call to me. Honestly, a lot of the time I am on autopilot, living in my head, and the world around me shut out.

Maybe I’m over thinking it. If you’ve been here a while you know I do that occasionally. It’s just that joy is a profound feeling for me. It’s like an explosion of happiness inside me! I suppose there are a few things that happen regularly, maybe habitually, that are deeply satisfying, though I wouldn’t classify them as joyous. I’ll try to list a few.

  1. Making and drinking lattes. I love coffee!
  2. Meeting someone new; you can make a habit of it.
  3. Communicating with people I like.
  4. Going downtown for a drink.
  5. Going to bed every night.
  6. Going home from work.
  7. Making tea in my teapot.
  8. Reading and writing things.
  9. Finding beautiful things to see.
  10. Talking to God every night.

Discussion Prompts

  1. What does joy feel like to you? Is it intense?
  2. Is there a difference between joy and happiness?
  3. Do you think joy is something you can capture or control?
  4. Do you think knowledge is fractal and ever growing?
  5. Are you on autopilot during the day?
  6. Do you practice mindfulness?
  7. Do I overthink? Do you?

Let’s talk about it in the comments! Please remember to like, share, and subscribe!

My favorite historical figure.

One of my favorite figures in history is René Descartes. Philosophically, he and I see the world a lot alike. A lot of the philosophical conclusions I came to about reality matched his, long before I knew who he was or what he said (probably another blog post). I think anyone who spends most of their life in prayer and quiet contemplation will sooner or later arrive at the same conclusions as the great philosophers. We are all really the same on the inside.

Cogito, ergo sum (I think, therefore I am).

René Descartes

Most philosophers struggled with the question of what is really true. Descartes started his search for truth with the only thing he could really verify for certain, his conscious thinking mind, as indicated by his most famous quote, Cogito, ergo sum (I think, therefore I am). I believe this is really the only foundation from which you can begin your search for truth, as nothing else is verifiable without the mind, nor does anything have any real value. He deduced other truths from this foundation, including the existence of the mind of God.

Descartes - Meditations on First Philosophy

Descartes – Meditations on First Philosophy

If you are into philosophy, I highly recommend reading this book. I believe the work of Descartes is foundational in developing a complete understanding of philosophy.

Philosophical and religious digressions.

There is an interesting statement in the scriptures that I think is relevant to Descartes work. It is the statement, And the light shineth in darkness; and the darkness comprehended it not. in John 1:5. To me, this statement is deeply philosophical in nature.

The property of physical light is probably not the main idea behind this statement. It is really talking about understanding. It is saying that we (spiritual beings) are the keepers of truth, and the material universe is dead to understanding. Basically, this is the same conclusion Descartes makes many years later. He figured out that his thinking mind was the foundation of reality, because the physical universe does not understand, nor can if verify its own existence.

It is also saying that the darkness (material) has no power over the truth (idea). It cannot even sense the existence of it, nor can an idea ever be extinguished by the material world. The idea will continue to exist and find a new way to surface. This is very similar to another famous philosophical quote by Victor Hugo, No army can withstand the strength of an idea whose time has come.


Though I like Descartes philosophically, he would only be a runner up to my favorite historical personage. My favorite historical figure would be Jesus. Though his teachings would be blamed for countless wars and strife, and he even said so, he was and continues to be a positive influence on thousands of people worldwide. I also believe that much of the work done by later philosophers had their origins from statements made by him and his followers. I would say that he is very much the father of western civilization and philosophy.


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