Tag: weirdo

The professional athletes I respect.

Honest truth, I am not a sports fan. When I think of professional athletes, almost no one comes to mind. For some reason, this is hard for me to admit. I hide this detail about myself around people, like I’m almost ashamed of it, but sports really mean nothing to me. Just saying this makes me feel like I’m not a cool person. I know it’s a big part of popular culture, but it’s just not something I care about at all.

I once told someone that I wasn’t into sports, and then when the game was on, and someone asked me about it, this person would answer for me and say, oh, he doesn’t like sports! Rubbing it in like that made me feel like a total outcast, which I probably am to sports fanatics. I guess you have to find the right crowd.

I honestly don’t understand why someone would sit there for hours and watch a game on television. It bores me to death! Last night I was at a bar, and they had a game on, football I believe. I thought about walking out. I wanted to just leave and find some place where people were talking or there was music playing.

I don’t even like being around people who are watching sports. They get all into it sometimes, and I feel absolutely nothing. To me, it’s just a bunch of people throwing a ball around or running up and down a field or court, a pointless endeavor at best, at least in my mind. If they ask me anything at all about the game or the players, I’m basically speechless, and that’s not a good feeling, but I’m still not going to invest enough time on the subject to be knowledgeable.

Are you a sports fan? What’s your favorite sport? Do you get into the game? What athlete do you respect the most? Do you feel weird going against popular culture? Ever find yourself in a situation where you feel like an outcast? Let me know in the comments, and don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe!

The thing that brings tears to my eyes.

One might describe me as a reluctant introvert. Outwardly, I usually seem very quiet, but this appearance belies my true nature. Over the years, I have learned to spend a lot of time alone, but I am not a true introvert. Under most social conditions, I can’t completely assume the characteristics of an extrovert, but I’m sure it would be very enjoyable if I could.

One of the main reasons I can’t be extroverted in every social situation is because I am unable or unwilling to overcome the extreme extroverts. A person who is overtly extroverted is highly competitive about getting and sustaining everyone’s attention. They won’t let anyone outdo them for long. It makes them uneasy. They might start looking for a different group if everyone tunes them out, one that listens to them and strokes their ego.

Have you ever been to a gathering and some guy says, why are you so quiet? Cat got your tongue? Don’t trust the quiet ones! If you have, you’ve met one of these competitive extroverts. They have to make the potential competition look weird or unworthy of hearing so they can keep the floor the whole time. They mostly do it subconsciously of course. They just can’t allow anyone to be heard above them. They’ve got to be the life of the party. Some people love this type of person, but many others, including myself, find them annoying and arrogant. Let someone else talk for a change!

I’m not pushy with my extroversion, but I know it’s still there. I want to be a person that people listen to sometimes, but I’ll take turns listening, and I mean really listening, not just thinking of my next funny reply. That’s another characteristic of the competitive extrovert. They never really hear anything you say because they only care about what they have to say. Their own ideas trump everyone else in the room.

I was then left all alone. I didn’t want to be alone again! I remember just sitting there by the porch, trying to play by myself, with tears rolling down my cheeks.

I experienced the need to be around people at an early age. One time when I was very young, several of my cousins came over to my house to play. We spent many hours playing, as kids often do. I don’t remember exactly what we did, probably involved lots of running around, or maybe playing a game, or we could have just played with cars or action figures under the big shade trees. The thing I do remember is when they all went home that evening. I was then left all alone. I didn’t want to be alone again! I remember just sitting there by the porch, trying to play by myself, with tears rolling down my cheeks. The emotional pain was overwhelming! I had found the thing that brings tears to my eyes, it’s simply the act of saying goodbye.

If I’m not an extrovert, and I’m not an introvert, then what am I? I believe the best way to describe my personality type would be to say that I’m an omnivert. I can sit quietly for long hours in contemplation and also do things that require incredible levels of concentration, like writing and programming computers for instance, but if I’m around people I like, I will become something totally different indeed.

I remember there was a girl I used to know, and once she started hanging out with me, she said something kind of funny. She said, wow, you’re a talker! She was very surprised to learn that I could keep a conversation going for as long as she wanted, maybe even longer. I think my extroverted side comes as quite a shock to someone after I know them enough to let it loose.

You may recall from another post, that I have difficulty concentrating around certain kinds of noise, so much so that I often opt for hearing protectors to block out sounds. It so happens that the main sounds that distract me are human voices. My extroverted side wants to know what they are talking about and join into the conversation. This is yet another example of my affinity toward the people I find interesting.

More info about omniverts can be found here: What Is an Omnivert? – Meaning And Traits.

Possible discussion ideas.

  1. How would you describe yourself (extrovert, introvert, ambivert, omnivert)?
  2. Do you know any competitive extroverts?
  3. Do you get annoyed when someone hogs all the attention?
  4. Ever feel really sad when company goes home?
  5. Do you know someone who never listens?
  6. Know any talkers who are quite most of the time?

Call people ugly, not weird.

Please, call people ugly, but don’t call them a weirdo or a creep. Why? If you call someone ugly, that’s on you, and most people will think you are a jerk. But how many times do you hear people call someone creepy or weird and get away with it? Quite frankly, being classified as a creepy person is way more damaging to a person’s ability to fit in to society.

Creepy isn’t cool. It insinuates that this person is someone you should avoid or who might even be dangerous. It also says that if you associate with them, you might also be shunned from normal society. There definitely are dangerous people out there, but most of the people being called weirdos are perfectly nice people. Many of them are suffering from social anxiety, shyness, and occasionally a mild personality disorder, or maybe they just want to express their own uniqueness and personality. Actually, if you want to go down that path, some of the most dangerous people in the world blend into society perfectly. It makes it far easier to find their next victim. You are also pretty naive if you think that name calling will somehow make them change. It doesn’t, and quite frankly, it shouldn’t. It’s their life to live.

There’s also another reason why you might call someone weird or creepy. You are a manipulator. You might actually be afraid of that person yourself, not in that they will hurt you, but that they might actually beat you at your little social game. They might actually be a bigger person than you, maybe even way more likable or interesting. You are taking them out before they get a chance to enter your group of friends and maybe become one of the cool ones. Heck, they might even steel your girlfriend or boyfriend. One thing is for sure though. If you call people names to destroy their reputation, you are the one not worth knowing.

This goes for all kinds of other senseless name calling, like the ones that insinuate promiscuity. Also, narcissism only affects about 6% of the population, so your ex probably wasn’t a narcissist. If there was no clinical diagnosis, then you are probably just trying to destroy them socially, so they won’t date one of your friends. This goes for all other name calling that suggests mental illness without any solid proof.