The one who breaks the spell.

This post is kind of a spin off from the last post where I talked about a girl I went to a festival with years ago. After writing that one, it occurred to me why I loved that girl so much.

For most of my life, I doubted my own value. I never saw myself as someone that a girl like her would want to be around. I never considered myself to be a prize of any sort. That day at the festival, for a short period of time, I actually felt normal, just like everyone else. I felt whole and complete, as I mentioned in the post. This was someone who saw a side of me that I had never observed. It caused me to wake up and see myself for the very first time. Her honesty actually healed part of me.

In the post, I also alluded to the negative consequences of pride, but it does have one positive thing about it. If you really feel like you have no value, pride can lift you out of the hole until you feel equal to everyone else. Though pride is out of hand in our world, it serves a purpose in that it makes us feel worthy of being treated better. Perhaps that’s why pride is through the roof in our society. No one feels truly valued anymore. They are overcompensating.

Ultimately, what I’m trying to say is that the one who completes you is actually the one who breaks the spell and convinces you to love yourself. Keep those people in your life when you find them. They are the only ones who can awaken the person inside you that is dying to come out. They will lead you toward living up to your full potential, which is the person they saw inside you all along. Cherish those people.

** Nice! The use of scrabble words in the image on this post about breaking a spell was completely unexpected, lol! ❤ **


Have you ever doubted your own worth? How does it feel when someone sees more in you than you see in yourself? Does pride have good and bad qualities? Can honesty heal someone? Why do people hide their feelings about you? Does our society make everyone feel valued? Do you truly love yourself? Let me know in the comments, and don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe!

The root of all evil

When I was growing up, I used to hear the old saying “money is the root of all evil” almost as often as “money doesn’t grow on trees.” My family was far from rich and had working class roots, and I also lived in a small rural town, which may have caused everyone to blame money for much of their woes, and they were probably not too far off base. I still never quite bought the idea of money being the source of evil, and technically, some money does come from trees, or at least plants.

It might also have been because my family was deeply religious, and the first saying is scriptural. The full translation can be found in 1 Timothy 6:10 and it reads “For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.” This seems true, but I think it’s talking more about people losing their faith because of greed.

I occasionally pondered this saying when I was young. Most of the money I saw was printed on paper, but some was in the form of coins. In ancient times, it was mostly coinage and often made of precious metals like gold. Of course, paper doesn’t seem too evil to me, and gold is just a shiny metal as far as I’m concerned. Both of these have uses on their own, but what sort of alchemy is required to transform them into something evil?

On its own, the paper money in your pocket isn’t worth very much, at least not intrinsically. It only has value because we believe it has value. We believe it has value, and we believe other people think it has value. It is roughly the same agreed upon value for all of us. This makes it into a medium of value exchange, something we refer to as currency. As long as it maintains its perceived value, we can continue to trust it as currency. Of course, no currency is perfect, and various factors can affect the value, like inflation for instance.

That’s all good for our understanding, but we haven’t quite figured out why currency would ever be associated with evil. What we have determined is that it is something that people value. They value it because they can exchange it for what they want. For instance, if I want someone to mow my lawn, I understand that I can just whip out some money and someone else will do it for me. They will exchange their time and energy for the paper in my wallet.

Basically, money is a storage unit for time and energy, and every human being only has a certain amount of this. You will never get back the time it takes to mow your lawn, but if you paid someone else to do it, then you gain back that time at their loss. Basically, this money thing sort of allows you to consume another person’s energy and lifetime, freeing you up to spend your own time on something you really want to do.

It’s beginning to not sound so good anymore, especially if you are the one running around giving up your lifetime for everyone else, just to collect a bunch of paper that we already established has no intrinsic value. You can use that money to buy your own services of course, but some people never seem to come out ahead. It reminds me of another old saying, “the rich get richer, and the poor get poorer.”

From here, we turn our attention to the affluent. The ones who seem to have plenty of money, so much so that they can mostly do whatever they want with their lifetime and energy. I’ve never been in their shoes, but I suspect it might be kind of addictive. They might do just about anything to gain and maintain this power.

I think this is the point where evil might begin to enter the picture. Having immense wealth may cause a person to be consumed by their own pride. They may begin to see themselves as superior to those with less money and power. This can lead to severe class differences socially, and eventually create division and envy.

I think we have succeeded in establishing that money is a complex system for exchanging time and energy, which can allow for bad things to happen, especially when combined with human vice. The problem is, I don’t think we have determined that money is the “root” cause of anything. To me, it seems more like a byproduct of certain conditions that already existed long before currency was invented.

Humans can’t do anything without the use of energy. Everything in this universe is driven by energy. Unfortunately, energy doesn’t automatically generate itself. You have to replace all the energy you use up. The bigger the task, the more energy you have to consume. For instance, heavy machinery consumes massive amounts of energy in the form of fuel or electricity, and all that energy costs money.

We know all this is true, because we know there are special laws in place in the physical universe that cause this to be the case. To do something useful, you need to consume energy, and that energy doesn’t just appear out of thin air. If it did, you could just blink your eyes and have a house and car in front of you. That only happens in your dreams and imagination though, never in the material world. Everything in this world requires work.

This is ultimately why money is necessary. The material world requires time and energy to do anything, and money is an exchange medium for time and energy. The point here is money can’t be the root, because it isn’t the foundation. It only exists because we have a need to use energy to manipulate the material world for our survival and happiness.

Basically, the law of conservation of matter and energy is actually the root cause, not money. Evil is woven into the material world at the lowest level through the laws of physics. We didn’t create evil by inventing money; we were born into it. It’s all around us. It’s what holds this universe together.

The hope I have with this article is so that we can forgive ourselves. Money is just a tool we invented because the circumstances existing in this universe eventually led to it. It’s a perfectly logical way to deal with the matter and energy problems that exist in the imperfect physical universe. Similarly, rich people are not the source of all the problems either. They just happen to better at making use of their resources, or perhaps they had a bit more luck than the rest of us.


Did you have humble beginnings? Have you ever studied currency? Do you sometimes question old sayings? What do you blame for all the world’s troubles? What would the universe be like with different physical laws? What is the secret to becoming wealthy? Do you think the rich abuse their power? Let me know in the comments, and don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe!

The trait I value most about myself.

There’s a lot of traits I have that might be considered valuable, but I don’t know that I notice them too much. They are things that other people would notice more than me, because they are external traits, not internal traits. I live on the inside, not the outside. Here are few external traits that people might notice about me.

  1. I am calm under fire. Several of the people working under me noticed this about me. They sometimes worry about the outcome, and I just stay the course unwaveringly. It is impressive to them that I am fearless and calm. When something does go astray, I gently bring it back on course. It’s an odd trait I picked up over the years. I think it also comes from shifting to a growth mindset.
  2. I have some degree of charisma. It’s not overwhelming, but if people are around me for a while, we begin to unite. I think it’s because they figure out that I’m an empathic person who listens to them, and I can also be pretty fearless under normal conditions. I once read that this is what charisma is all about. It’s a combination of presence, power, and warmth.
  3. I have extensive knowledge in a wide range of fields. I spent half of my life reading textbooks, encyclopedias, and other books. I know quite a bit about computer science, electronics, engineering, psychology, biology, philosophy, etc. I’ve even studied subjects that would be considered esoteric. This is on top of degrees in business and information technology.

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The trait I value the most.

After thinking about it, the trait I value most about myself isn’t any of these. The trait I value most about myself is an odd trait that is at the core of my being. I believe it might drag me down, but I still value it. If I lose it, I will lose some aspect of what makes me into the person that I am.

As I went through life, I met a couple of people along the way that I really came to love on a very deep level. When that occurred, I become very scared that something would happen to them. It caused me to try and keep them in my life and take care of them. I think a lot of people hate this type of behavior, calling it clingy, but to me this feeling is the equivalent of deep love.

I believe this is something that was accidentally taught to me growing up. My grandmother was the closest person to me in my childhood and she was very overprotective. She wouldn’t let me out of her sight for fear that I would get hit by a car, or drown in the pool, or burn myself alive, or catch some awful disease, or you name it. I heard that what was modeled to you growing up is what you think is normal, and what I experienced most was the watchful eye of caring grandparent.

This trait probably causes trouble for me because if you are one of these special people it might feel very clingy. I honestly didn’t always appreciate it growing up either, but it still translates to love in my mind. It is definitely something I like about myself, but other people may not. Basically, I want to take care of a special person and help them survive and thrive because that is how I was raised.


What trait do you value most about yourself? Are you calm under fire? Would you consider yourself charismatic? Do you have a trait that’s misunderstood? Are you a clingy person? Do you avoid clingy people? What subjects do you know the most about? Let us know in the comments, and please like, share, and subscribe! Also, thanks for reading!