Tag: relate

My secret skills

Today’s question is what’s a secret skill or ability I have or wish I had? I have quite a few skills, but I don’t know that any of them are secret. I’ve used most of them openly in school and at work.

My secret ability

There is an ability I have that I don’t say much about. I can often see through people’s schemes, but I usually don’t tell them about it. Basically, there are many instances where I can perceive that a person is lying to me about their true intentions. I often play along and feign naivete, but I am secretly thinking out how to neutralize anything harmful. Telling them I know would just give them the upper hand, and possibly make them angry. It makes me sad when I see someone do this though, as it means they are not truly my friend. They are a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Luckily, most people are not nefarious like this, but I am still forced to keep my guard up at all times, and that can be tiring.

Wishful thinking

I can think of one ability I wish I had, but it might be more like a superpower. I wish I could be someone else. An example happened last night. I saw a group of people that I sort of wanted to blend in with, but I intuitively knew they were not the type of people who would naturally desire my company. I wish I was the type of person who could just blend in with anyone I wanted. I think this would be the greatest skill you could ever master, but I’m a long way from that presently.

On the reverse of that, I am sometimes approached by types who aren’t really good for me. I’m always nice, but I know there is no growth potential there for either of us. It’s an odd predicament. If only I could wake up tomorrow as the right kind of person. Of course, this might break the synchronicity I have with some people who do make my life better. Acquiring and keeping the right people in your life is really hard work.

What secret ability do you have? What ability do you wish you had? Can you see through people’s schemes? Do you sometimes play naive? Do you ever wish you were a different person? Would you like the ability to blend in with anyone you choose? Let me know in the comments, and don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe! Thanks for being here!

Not everyone can help you.

Sometimes life can feel very lonely, and you will need the help of special people to feel content and satisfied. Unfortunately, you will find that not everyone can help you or even understand you. Some people will try to help you, but their efforts will not have the desired effect. You may not even notice their efforts or appreciate them. If you do acknowledge them, it may feel less than sincere. Any attention you give them may also be misinterpreted and cause them to be lead on.

A more distressing fact though, is that the person who can help you, may derive no satisfaction from doing so, and will therefore make little attempt at it. This causes quite a lot of depression for people. You may be tempted to think such a person is self-centered, superficial, or heartless, and maybe they are, but it’s likely that they are also trapped by the same problem. They are also looking to connect with someone who can help them, but unfortunately it is not you. You simply do not provide what they need or want. There might not be anything you can ever do to change this either. Similarly, the person they are pursuing may have no desire to help them either. It’s a vicious cycle.

How many times have you heard the story of a person who tried everything to make a relationship work, only to eventually lose them to someone else? This usually causes severe bitterness in the person who is trying so hard. They really needed that person and felt totally abandoned by them. They usually call them all sorts of names afterwards in an attempt to destroy their reputation. They make them out to be a terrible person who will never be able to treat a person right, and all their relationships will fail in a similar way, so be warned. Maybe that’s true in some instances, but not always.

The root cause of this issue is that this reality makes it very difficult to find and connect with just the right people to achieve maximum life satisfaction. Other problems can arise from this situation, like settling for someone, or jumping into a rebound relationship. People also change over time, so the people who could have helped you yesterday, might not be the best ones to help you today.

Life is really a journey. You have to continue to attract new people and should learn to spot new friendship opportunities and act on them. You also have to put some effort into staying connected to those who enrich your life for as long as possible. Lastly, you need to learn to accept it gracefully when it really is time to move on.