Not everyone can help you.

Sometimes life can feel very lonely, and you will need the help of special people to feel content and satisfied. Unfortunately, you will find that not everyone can help you or even understand you. Some people will try to help you, but their efforts will not have the desired effect. You may not even notice their efforts or appreciate them. If you do acknowledge them, it may feel less than sincere. Any attention you give them may also be misinterpreted and cause them to be lead on.

A more distressing fact though, is that the person who can help you, may derive no satisfaction from doing so, and will therefore make little attempt at it. This causes quite a lot of depression for people. You may be tempted to think such a person is self-centered, superficial, or heartless, and maybe they are, but it’s likely that they are also trapped by the same problem. They are also looking to connect with someone who can help them, but unfortunately it is not you. You simply do not provide what they need or want. There might not be anything you can ever do to change this either. Similarly, the person they are pursuing may have no desire to help them either. It’s a vicious cycle.

How many times have you heard the story of a person who tried everything to make a relationship work, only to eventually lose them to someone else? This usually causes severe bitterness in the person who is trying so hard. They really needed that person and felt totally abandoned by them. They usually call them all sorts of names afterwards in an attempt to destroy their reputation. They make them out to be a terrible person who will never be able to treat a person right, and all their relationships will fail in a similar way, so be warned. Maybe that’s true in some instances, but not always.

The root cause of this issue is that this reality makes it very difficult to find and connect with just the right people to achieve maximum life satisfaction. Other problems can arise from this situation, like settling for someone, or jumping into a rebound relationship. People also change over time, so the people who could have helped you yesterday, might not be the best ones to help you today.

Life is really a journey. You have to continue to attract new people and should learn to spot new friendship opportunities and act on them. You also have to put some effort into staying connected to those who enrich your life for as long as possible. Lastly, you need to learn to accept it gracefully when it really is time to move on.