What makes me nervous

Today I am asked what makes me nervous?

I just had a discussion about this topic the other day. It’s mainly unpredictability that makes me nervous. I feel like that’s what causes most people to be nervous. In some cases, it might be a situation where the outcome is unpredictable and potentially dangerous. It might also be an unpredictable person.

A powerful person who is very predictable is often not a threat. You can predict their behavior and avoid them as necessary. An unpredictable person is another matter. Even if they don’t have a lot of power, the unpredictability of their nature can potentially make them dangerous, because you won’t see it coming.

I think some people like being unpredictable and a little bit scary. They sort of use it to frighten people away. In general, it’s a recipe for solitude, because people tend to shy away from people who appear out of control. I believe this type of behavior is often tied to certain personality disorders.

In general, I like being predictable, because I dislike making people nervous. Solitude is not one of my objectives. I like being around certain people, and I try hard to not run them off. I’m basically a people person at heart.

That being said, I think you have to have some degree of spontaneity in order to be fun. For instance, I might just up and go to the zoo, or for a walk, or to the mall and shop. I might even do an unplanned weekend getaway. You never know. I also tend to like being around people who are a little spontaneous. It’s usually a fun time.

The important thing is that my friends feel safe around me and don’t want to avoid my company. One of the worst feelings I can imagine is when someone you really like being around tries to avoid you. I had that happen once. It makes me feel a little sick just thinking about it.

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What makes you nervous? Do you avoid people who are dangerously unpredictable? Are you a spontaneous person? Do you like being around spontaneous people? How does it feel when someone you like tries to avoid you? Do you know someone who tries to make people afraid of them? Do you prefer solitude over being around people? Let me know in the comments, and please remember to like, share, and subscribe!